The 9th Things to Give Up if You are Ready to Stop Binge and Emotional Eating are shame & doubt.

I know you’ve been on a million diets and you feel like you’ve “failed,” but the important thing to remember, as I mentioned in post #1, is that DIETS FAIL.

They don’t work, however when you are losing weight you will say, “oh I’m on the ____ diet!” And give it all the credit. But when that weight comes back on you blame yourself. You don’t see the link between the diet and the weight gain. You think YOU’RE the link, when in reality, it’s the diet. 

This toxic relationship with food that you’ve been in for a number of years, alongside the horrific social conditioning about how you should look and eat, has led you to forget about the wonderful, worthy being you actually are.

You shame yourself because … 

• You’ve lost and gained weight multiple times
• You can’t just eat “healthy” foods
• You love sugary, cheesy, carby foods that aren’t “good” for you
• You binge eat in secret
• You “fell off the wagon” … again
• You binge again after saying “this is the last time”
• You don’t fit in the clothes you used to
• You can’t seem to find a balance with exercise
• You’re the heaviest you’ve ever been

You doubt …

• Your ability to actually follow a program like mine that helps you make peace with food FOREVER
• That peace with food forever even exists for you
• That you won’t become a ravenous beast if unleashed near your favorite foods
• That you can maintain a healthy weight without dieting
• Your ability to show up, learn from, and support yourself
• That anyone would ever accept and love you if they knew how you really acted around food

Why would you treat yourself well, eat balanced, practice self-care, or exercise regularly if you hated yourself and felt like you were an awful, damaged person?

Something I tell my clients repeatedly is that self-criticism leads to self-destruction.

When you are self-critical in one moment, you end up behaving self-destructively in the next. In other words, your binge eating is driven by your critical thoughts about yourself.

When you stop shaming and doubting yourself, and start offering yourself compassion instead, a whole new set of behaviors show up that are in line with your new thoughts about yourself…

…because if self-criticism leads to self-destruction, self-compassion leads to self-care.

Shame leads you to seek perfection, which doesn’t exist, so when you inevitably fail at being perfect (we all do), you have more reasons to attack yourself.

WAKE UP, BABE.

PERFECTION IS NOT REALITY.

OVEREATING DOESN’T DEFINE YOU.

YES PEACE WITH FOOD FOREVER REALLY EXISTS.

YES YOU ARE CAPABLE OF HEALING.

YES YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE AND COMPASSION EVEN IF YOU ARE A BINGE EATER.

YOU ARE HUMAN. We fuck up. In fact, we are spectacular at fucking up. Are you going to learn from this or just continue to shame spiral?

The shame must go. Own your path. Own your imperfections. Own the fact that you are working on it even if you haven’t quite figured it out yet.

You’re amazing even for reading this blog and CONSIDERING change, because even that is scary.

If you can’t find compassion for yourself right now, borrow mine…

I love you. I see you. I understand you. I honor you. 💕

All my love,

Cina